Marriage as Defined in the Bible!
The Marriage Song video you are about to watch speaks a lot about reconciliation in a marriage. I mean a lot of the song focuses on keeping the marriage honoring before the Lord which is overlooked in most marriages. It could be the man or the woman attempting to reconcile their marriage but its better than loosing everything you invested and going to the poor house in dishonor.
Jesus answered and said to them, “Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. 6 But from the beginning of the creation, God ‘made them male and female Mark 10:5-9.
Best Marriage Song for Reconciliation
Marvel at God’s Holy Design in Marriage!
Marvel at the Beauty of God’s Creation of Marriage? God designed marriage to be a union of a man and woman, in the intimacy, in the attractiveness for a man and woman to enjoy the union of each other?
Most marriage songs emphasize the wedding aspect and the excitement of getting married but neglect the maintenance or the loving nurture needed to keep a marriage flourishing and glorifying the Lord. Did I say glorify the Lord? Yes, but this part is left out of most marriages today!
Design of Marriage Song
This song was designed to encourage reconciliation when a relationship gets wounded. It’s not a cure for all but only a beginning to get one on the right track.
The good news is that when both follow God’s design for marriage, the majority of your time will be experiences of blessings by each other.
While following God’s plan for marriage, perhaps in a blue moon there may be a moment of misunderstanding but they need to be corrected immediacy or at least before the sun sets or hardness sets in.
What Divides a Marriage Relationship?
Most of the division is because of pride and wanting to get your own way instead of considering the other person’s viewpoint.
Who can say that marriage doesn’t bring disappointments at times? And who would think that maybe the problem is with you?
When one is hurting or can’t communicate their needs to each other because of sin and a bad habit controlling you, try following the guidelines in this song. It’s written just for You and it works!
Again, here’s my attempt to show from God’s perspective in a song video what His design and thoughts are for a Godly marriage. Of course, it’s not perfect but it’s at least a start.
The Narrative Suggest Resolve Conflicts Instead of Divorce!
- Marriage begins in love between man & woman!
- Misunderstandings and confusion arise in life!
- Couples should seek God’s guidance instead of the next-door neighbor’s advice!
- Resolve issues in prayer and get back together again within 24 hours before hardness sets in!
- Encourage one another to remember the commitment they’ve made before God and one another!
- Review the Song of Solomon and go searching for each other if necessary!
- Remembering that Marriage is Sacred and is a Holy Union before God!
- Finally, after reconciling, celebrate marriage and the Joy that comes with intimacy.
Discussing God’s Blueprint for Marriage
Marriage
Marriage is a commitment to stay faithful and true to each other in all of life’s situations that God designs to happen in life. It is a covenant, a solemn binding agreement between two hearts and their Maker to commit to each other in good and bad times.
Marriage is when two hearts are knit together in union for life for a common purpose to love each other for life. A true Marriage before the Lord is not a worldly contract in paper known as a marriage license that says they are married.
· A marriage covenant is between the Lord and the two hearts and cannot be broken.
· A marriage contract may be based solely on the laws of the land and may not be before our Lord which allows divorce because it is a contract that can be broken or dissolved.
The Lord never intended for man and woman to divorce. Malachi 2:16 “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel”.
A marriage covenant is a binding and solemn oath of the union of two hearts before the Lord. The marriage begins in the heart and stays alive in the heart for a life time. When difficult situations arise when it look like the storms in life are not receding, the one who is still able to walk must come to others aid in faithfulness, support and kindness to see them through their difficulty.
Marriage is the mending of two imperfect souls united in a common purpose to please our Creator in the course of life’s ups and downs, mountains and valleys and to give Him first place in their hearts.
Marriage is a union and merging of two people into one, a miracle at that. One does not look out for their own desires any more. It’s meeting the needs of the other as God empowers them to do so. The emotional needs and the physical needs of 1 Corinthians 7:3-5. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
Marriage is as basic as loving and caring for one another as you love yourself. It is allowing Christ to be the head of every man, and the head of a woman is her husband, and the Head of Christ is God. 1 Corinthians 11:3-4. The man is the reflected image and glory of God (his function of government reflects the majesty of the divine rule), but woman is the expression of the glory of man.
Church
Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. So the husband loves his wife and his wife should submit to him in everything. As the husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. So the church submits to Christ as the wife submits to her husband. Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
God Plan for Man and Women
It is not Gods plan to have woman under a man’s feet to dominate her, but to have her along side of him as a helpmate next to his authority. This is Gods intended purpose in creation of a woman as stated in Genesis 2:20-21 “…But for Adam no suitable helper was found… the LORD God made a woman from the rib…” This principle of a helpmate is not necessary practiced in the western world or is forgotten.
Love and Respect
A marriage is for a man to love his wife and for the women to respect him. Ephesians 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
· In the same way a man should live with his wife in an understanding way as the weaker vessel emotionally. 1 Peter 3:7You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.
· A husband will not be correct in every decision. The wife has special and powerful inward beauty that can win over her husbands’ behavior. 1 Peter 3:1Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.
Restoration
Conflict or disagreement are unavoidable but when there is sin or one hurts another that individual must admit their weakness and faults when they have failed each other and begin asking God for forgiveness and seeking forgiveness from the one that is offended. Matthew 6:14 For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
Ephesians 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. It is saying I will not focus on my hurt inflected by the other but will with the power of our Resurrected Lord let go of the hurt and move forward in total harmony and peace with each other. It is asking our Lord to restore the fellowship we can have. It is allowing Christ to shine through each other and blending His Love into one.
Marriage is a fellowship of love for each other and one cannot say I will not forgive my partner anymore and in the same breath ask God to forgive them when they walk away because they are not happy or perhaps they don’t feel loved any more.
Forgiveness and Reconciliation are two parts:
· The offender needs to ask forgiveness of the one that is offended.
· The offended needs to accept the forgiveness from the offender.
· Then the offended needs to reconcile and move toward the other person in love, peace and harmony. The offended may just say I forgive but does not reconcile and move toward the other person. This is wrong. After one accepts forgiveness then there needs to be reconciliation.
· At times the offender does not realize that he/she offended the other person. The one that is offended should approach the other in love and state plainly that their feelings were hurt. One has to approach the other in gentle love. Galatians 6:1Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.
The Two Must not Separate and Divorce:
· A wife must not separate from her husband and her husband must not divorce his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
How to Resolve Marriage Conflicts:
Marriage conflicts are not solved by a tit for tat mentality. Where as the one that is hurting inflicts some punishment or pain on the other instead of loving them for their failures.
· Marriage conflicts are to be resolved or at least they should understand each others view point before the day is over and not at late hours. One day is certainly enough time to resolve or understand conflicts otherwise hardness of heart sets in and it becomes even harder to come to peace. Ephesians 4:26,27″In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27and do not give the devil a foothold.
· Marriage conflicts are resolved by talking issue out in a normal voice and not shouting in verbal abuse or demonstrating physical abuse. Each should be given time to talk while the other is listening.
· Marriage conflicts are resolved by discussing only one issue at a time and not every issue under the sun or to bring up issues in the past. It takes discipline to just focus on one issue.
Trying to Change the Other Person: Log and Splinter
Marriage is a commitment to God between two for life in time. Two giving and receiving from each other. It’s not only 50% 50% of giving to each either. At times one may give 90% and at other times the other only gives 10%. Accepting each other for the way they are and allowing Jesus to work in them to conform to His Image in His time frame. Remember we can not change a person into our standards. We have to change and take the log out of own eyes before we can take the splinter out of our neighbors eyes. The Secret is NOT in finding the right person, but becoming the right person before the Lord. Matthew 7: 3″Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4″Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye?
Forsaking All Others
Marriage is between two people and forsaking all others. It is when two people agree to forsake all others. It’s not to be taken lightly. It’s a covenant before God to say that they believe that He can live His life out in them to the fullest in two people who give Him glory.
Marriage is not living with someone and then when that person wears out, he/she looks for another person to fulfill his/her needs. Marriage is saying, we live and we die together. It is not something to run away from when things don’t work out the way we planned. Marriage is not for quitters.
Family
Marriage is a solemn covenant and bond with each other before God to honor Him and enjoy each other on this earth till death. Marriage is the most basic and important institution, (family) on earth and is only as strong as the God they worship and submit too. It is a witness before man that they will uphold God’s sacred union before Him until death.
Commitment to Stay in Gods Word Daily
Marriage is not only a promise but a commitment to stay in Gods word and submit to Him daily. For a marriage to work & be successful and for a husband to be a leader, both husband & wife need to daily bath in Gods Word. Let’s not kid ourselves, there is a spiritual war going on and we cannot be warriors for God kingdom and expect to be victorious if we get our daily bread or food and nourishment from TV, novels, or the radio. Don’t get me wrong I think they are important, but those sources are not our primary source of nourishment to survive in these evil days. To state it plainly, both husband and wife need to be in His Word daily to filter out truth from deceit. Amen…
Divorce is Never an Option to End a Marriage Commitment Before God:
Divorce is not allowed before our Lord. Divorce does begin in the heart also. Divorce says I will not submit to Gods principles. It creeps in the heart when two sinful people do not want to share life’s battles and victories sorrows and joys together anymore. Be careful that no root of bitterness develops. Hebrews 12:15 Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many. Divorce begins when the other person just cannot forgive or is tempted in other ways of sin. It is when the heart becomes ungrateful and expects more. It is much the same way Eve was tempted in that she was deceived into thinking God did not provide the very best for her and was holding something back from her. The devil always tempts this way and it does not change over time. Genesis 3:5 “For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil. “It’s over when the heart says it’s over. No marriage certificate can keep them married. No Minister or Judge can keep them married. A marriage certificate is only a peace of paper. They divorce in the heart and the devil has gained another victory over the redeemed children of God.
Divorce has its Consequences:
Divorce also has its consequences. Divorce is the tearing and ripping apart of two in spirit, soul and body, it rips at the very intimate fiber of the couple in union. Divorce is saying I am independent of that person and will now make decisions based on my own intellect. The initiator of the divorce is selfless & cruel and is essentially killing the other person. It is saying that God did not provide the very best for me and I will look elsewhere. Divorce affects the family adversely and impacts generations to come. Divorce negatively affects a person spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially. When God says He hates divorce He is protecting us by saying that because it will really hurt the two. Divorce is open to Gods judgments and pains and may the Lord Judge severely for any such thoughts.
